REFUSAL OR CHANGE

'Change is so often a difficult choice for people.' She commented. 'But refusing to change is still a choice, not so?'
'Yes, in the broader sense of the word, it is still a choice.' S-H-E agreed. 'But refusal is also a prison; a prison that through fear of change people place themselves in.  There are very subtle differences at play here.  Choice, in my understanding, presents one with opportunities.  However, refusal closes the door to opportunities, and hence to choice.'
'So, refusing to look at one's choices; refusing to change actually blocks opportunity.' She responded.
'It does.'  S-H-E stated.  'For instance, if one is in a job or relationship that makes one unhappy, refusing to make a change imprisons one in that situation.  Offering no obvious way out, hence no choice.  However, if one chooses to stay for the time being, with the commitment to explore other alternatives at the same time - one then opens up opportunities for change.  This then is a choice as it offers a way out.'
'I see what you mean.' She replied.
'Similarly, when one allows ones responsibilities to become a ball and chain, one closes the door on ones life, blocking opportunities.  And ironically, often what's actually playing out is a lack of responsibility.' S-H-E continued.  'In other words, by using ones supposed responsibilities as an excuse for not changing, one is in fact avoiding taking responsibility for ones own life.  The wounding is around responsibility and it is then playing itself out in distortions of true responsibility.  For only when one takes full responsibility for ones own life, is it possible to act in a responsible manner to others.'
'That makes so much sense.' She answered. 'Refusing to change when things are not beneficial to the self also blocks one to ones potential.'
'Exactly! S-H-E smiled.  'Everyone has limitless potential.  But if one chooses to stay stuck in a limiting 'place' through fear of change, one will never realize ones true abilities, nor experience the fullness of life.'
'Why are humans so fearful of change?' she asked.
'It's your programming.' S-H-E answered with kindness. 'The fight or flight response is over-active in your society today.  For you see your world as a hostile place.  Yet one is constantly attempting to suppress ones fears.  And the more one suppresses them, the stronger they become.  Facing a fear is the only way of conquering it.'
'I've noticed that in my own life.' She admitted.  'When I finally face something I've been fearful of and have resisted until that moment, it seems to lose it's power.  I am then often astounded at how quickly the fear dissipates.'
'Precisely.' S-H-E added. 'Much of the fear is perceived fear.  A mind-based construct one has created around the issue.  When one faces it - truly faces it - those constructs fall away and one is then left with only the core, which in itself is not as great a hurdle as the mind seduced you into believing.'
'Change is freeing - liberating!' She stated confidently.
'It most definitely is.' S-H-E answered encouragingly. 'It is the key to an extraordinary life!'
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