'There is so much information out there, in this, the digital age.' she observed. 'It can be confusing to determine within it all, what aligns to each of our own personal paths. And as more and more people share their experiences and journeys, it can become very easy to be more overcritical of oneself. Especially if one perceives other peoples journeys as having 'progressed more' than one's own.'
'That is definitely the case.' S-H-E agreed. 'But there is a way of turning the inner critic into something more beneficial. I know you are discovering this way and implementing it more.'
'It's all about embodiment. Isn't it?' she answered.
'Yes.' S-H-E continued. 'Your body can be used as a finely tuned gauge when you are more fully tuned in to it and trust it. The inner critic becomes the outer critic if not attended to. But even then, the outer critic isn't necessarily all that bad if one brings awareness to it. The key is to bring awareness to the criticism through sensing it in the body when it happens; recognize how it makes you feel; accept and acknowledge the ways it's inhibited your true expression of self through feeling these ways in the body; and then begin to re-train it into accepting a new belief that is more in alignment with your true essence until this new belief is felt within the body. Old non-beneficial beliefs are often born of fear. And when one senses even a small energy of fear within a belief, one knows that it is not in alignment with your Soul essence.'
'I've definitely found this with certain aspects of self.' She replied. 'The inner critic flows out into the world and becomes the outer critic of what one sees and experiences. When I am aware of this, I bring that which I am criticizing back into self and then look at aspects of the self that bring about those criticisms. For instance. I'm really hard on myself when it comes to my skills as an artist. Always believing that I'm not good enough yet. When I see myself beginning to criticize others in the same way I look back into myself and try to see where those feelings for self arose from. I've had many teachers in the past whose teaching methods used negative criticism in order to try to get their students to do better. Perhaps some of that rubbed off the wrong way. In other ways I believed that being abandoned at birth also made me feel that I wasn't good enough. Even times when I've looked back on a situation and criticized myself for not being loving enough, patient enough, or whatever it might be - through the inner work I understand that those feelings are at times lacking for self. I then look at ways to adjust those inner beliefs so that I may show more love or patience to myself in order to express it to others.'
'And what have you found?' S-H-E asked with great compassion.
'That it's all merely a strong belief I've attached to, which can be believed 'real' or 'false' - experienced or simply imagined. Either way it's perceived as true.' She continued. 'When I see it as that, I then begin to build and strengthen the opposite belief in myself. Though first I draw out all the ways that that particular belief has played out in my life - without criticism, only with love and compassion. Then I begin to re-program it. Usually through the same voice that is the critic - my inner voice. I coach it to say that I am good enough in this moment - in every moment until I can feel it in my body. Sometimes it takes longer than other times. It often needs days, even weeks of repeating this exercise before I truly feel it in my body. Until I em-body it fully!! When I can feel it, then I can believe it.'
'The em-bodiment of a belief is what anchors it into your energy field.' S-H-E replied. 'Whether it is a thought, a belief or an emotion, when we feel it strongly rooted within our body, that physical feeling evolves into knowing and then it becomes your reality.'
'It's becoming so clear to me, to see how the inner reality becomes our outer reality.' She replied. 'But it does require great awareness, patience and self love to shift the non-beneficial inner beliefs in order to alter our outer reality. The simplicity of it is incredible - embody self love and you will be able to express love to others in the world; embody confidence and that confidence will touch others, inviting them to express confidence within themselves too.'
'It is simple, yet the complexity of it must not be underestimated.' S-H-E answered with gentleness. 'It is the nature of the physical world. That which one em-bodies is that which one experiences. And through each experience, the em-bodiment of it is anchored deeper still within your entire being. Therefore, the importance of inner work cannot be underestimated.'
'It's a constant re-checking in.' She replied. 'For it is so easy to em-body non-beneficial beliefs without being aware of it at the time.'
'It is.' S-H-E agreed. 'But things are changing and the more aware one is of these inner mechanisms and the more one practices the inner work, the easier it becomes to re-adjust before they become entrenched within the physical and energetic being.'
'The inner work brings us closer to our Soul consciousness too, doesn't it.' She answered with joy.
'It most definitely does.' S-H-E smiled lovingly.
- Kim Dreyer - © 'Conversations with S-H-E'
Artwork from my Conscious Spirit Oracle Deck
Conversations with S-H-E
Conversations with S-H-E begun early 2018 when S-H-E appeared first in a visionary dream state and then more frequently in meditations and dreams since then. 'Her' name - S-H-E - embodies the essence both SHE and HE; multidimensional states of consciousness between Spirit/Heaven/Earth; Yin-yang and All that is.